By Tea Silvestre, aka The Word Chef
Okay, it’s a LOT like dancing.
When we begin, we dance solo much of the time. Tentatively learning the steps — by ourselves (with a homestudy course) or with a teacher or a mentor.
Eventually, as our confidence and skill level builds, we begin to dance with others — our clients, our community, our vendors and our peers. If we’re lucky, the dancing (usually) turns into something that looks a lot like a party.
But have you ever felt like you were dancing too much? Too fast?
Sure, you may be doing something you love, something you’re passionate about — at least, that’s how it started. But now, you’re more dizzy than ecstatic.
It happens to the best of us.
Finding Your Own Rhythm
Typically, at the close of any year we take time to reflect. On what we’ve accomplished over the previous months. On the goals that we turned into reality (or that fell by the wayside). We look at what went sideways. And most importantly, we ask ourselves what we’d like to create next year.
What if you also spent some time thinking about what you’d like to give up?
Mark Silver, of Heart of Business, wrote about just this topic in his post, Preparing for December.
He begins with the story of a client who told him she wanted to quit her entire business. That she was done. Finished. Kaput.
He thought it was definitely time for her to quit. But not in the way she thought.
He’s got a few recommendations for thinking about quitting. (Go ahead and read his post. I’ll wait.)
Did you just feel your heart expand?
It’s good to remember that sometimes we need to slow down the dancing and consider who we are and what we really want.
Releasing the Wrong Dance Partners
Very recently, I had the privilege of quitting something BIG myself: an old vision of who I was and what I was meant to bring to the world.
This quitting was huge for me because, well…it was/is woven into a massively large project.
When I began the planning of it, it looked grand and beautiful. I was excited about the possibilities and couldn’t wait to see it debut on the world-wide-web.
But over time, my perspective about my role and purpose shifted. And before I knew what happened, I found myself depressed and annoyed with this big awesome thing.
I no longer believed that my project was the wonderfabulous offering it first was. In fact, I was sure that I was dancing the wrong dance with the wrong people for the wrong reasons.
Simply put, I wanted to quit. Quit the whole darned thing. Just chuck in the towel and move on. Get a J-O-B.
When I confessed all of this to my mastermind group, they held that quitting space for me for a few moments and then lovingly challenged me to see — surprise, surprise — that the reason they believed in my dancing was the reason I was there in the first place. That I could re-focus, re-work and re-invent my project to be in total balance with who I am now.
I didn’t need to give up the project. I just needed a realignment.
What about you? What projects or roles are you ready to set down or reinvent? What dance partners are you ready to let go of? Share with us in a comment and let’s celebrate your new dance steps together.
This post is part of the November Word Carnival. The topic is Letting go: How and What to Trim to Keep Your Business Lean and Focused. Come read the rest of the genius ideas and join the carney fun.
As a marketing coach/consultant, Tea loves to help her clients find and share their Secret Sauce with the world. She’s also the founder of the ground-breaking reality web series, “Prosperity’s Kitchen” and the author of “Attract and Feed a Hungry Crowd.” Connect on Twitter: @TeaSilvestre.